The Fruitful Family Part II

 21Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged

Padres, no exasperen a sus hijos, no sea que se desanimen.

Family Relationship

Relación Familiar

Marriage / Matrimonio

Is between the husband and wife, not the children
Es entre el esposo y esposa y no entre los ninos.

Marriage / Matrimonio

The best way for children to learn about marriage is to see it modeled at the home.
El mejor manera de aprender cerca de matrimonio es que los niños vean en practico en el hogar.

Marriage / Matrimonio

The best gift we can give to our children is to see two grown people in love.
 El mejor regalo dado a nuestros niños es ver dos padres enamorados para siempre.

Parents – Be responsible for your children's feelings
Padres – sean responsable por los sentimientos de sus hijos.

Children are highly impressionable
Los hijos son muy impresionables.

Children learn through seeing, not thinking.
Ninos aprendan por ver, no por pensar.

Children cannot reason as well as adults
No puedan rationarse como adultos

The pressures of parenting

El presion de ser padre

It is not the intention of parents hurt their childrenLuke 11:11 "Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead?
Los padres no dañan intencionalmente»¿Quién de ustedes que sea padre, si su hijo le pide un pescado, le dará en cambio una serpiente?
The power of parenting
El poder de ser padre

Parents naturally want the best for their children.

Hebrews 12:8-10 8If you are not disciplined (and everyone undergoes discipline), then you are illegitimate children and not true sons.

Naturalmente, los padres quieren lo mejor para sus hijos.

Hebreos 12:8-10  Si a ustedes se les deja sin la disciplina que todos reciben, entonces son bastardos y no hijos legítimos.9 Después de todo, aunque nuestros padres *humanos nos disciplinaban, los respetábamos.

¿No hemos de someternos, con mayor razón, al Padre de los espíritus, para que vivamos?

The impression of parenting

El impresión de ser padre

Parents are responsible for the spiritual growth of their childrenEphesians 6:4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Los padres son responsable por el crecimiento espiritual de sus hijos

Efesions 6:4  Y ustedes, padres, no hagan enojar a sus hijos, sino críenlos según la disciplina e instrucción del Señor.

Resentment – The responsibility of Parents

Resentment is a perception of unfairness for not getting the expected help, recognition, appreciation, consideration, praise, reward, or affection.

El resentimiento – La responsabilidad de los padres

Resentimiento de Padres es una percepción de la injusticia para no conseguir la ayuda esperada, el reconocimiento, la apreciación, la consideración, el elogio, la recompensa, ni el cariño.

Parents do not do things that will result in “resentment”

I will never be able to forgive you for what you have done.

Divorce
Verbal / Physical Abuse
Infidelity
Spiritual Neglect
Emotional Neglect

Parents do not do things that will result in “resentment”

Yo nunca podré perdonarle para lo que usted ha hecho.

Divorcie
Abuso Verbal o Física
La Infidelidad
Descuido Emocional
Descuido Espiritual

"Resentment or grudges do no harm to the person against whom you hold these feelings but every day and every night of your life, they are eating at you." - Norman Vincent Peale

El resentimiento  no hace daño a la persona contra quien usted tiene estos sentimientos pero cada día y cada noche de su vida, estos sentimientos comen en usted".

Resentment

Resentment enters the home from the outside
Entre por afuera
Resentment enters the home from the inside
    Entre por adentro
Resentment comes from feels that somebody owes me something (entitlement).
Alguien me debe y yo quiero recibirlo ahora

Discouragement – Children’s response to unresolved resentment.

La desmotivación – la respuesta de Niños resentimiento no resuelto.

Why try, if all I am going to do is fail?
¿Por qué trata, si todo haré es falla?
This will not work.
Esto no trabajará.
This will never happen. Esto nunca sucederá.
Steps to encourage your children

Frustration:  Teach your children to work through their frustrations one small step at a time.
Los pasos para animar sus hijos
Frustración : Enseñe a sus niños a tratar sus frustraciones un pequeño paso a la vez.

Failure:  Teach your children that failure is a normal and natural part of life.  Shares your failures and help them to try, try again.

El fracaso: Enseñe a sus niños que fracasar es una parte normal y natural de la vida. Comparte sus fracasos y animales a tratar y tratar otra vez.

Fear:  Fear puts the brakes on all great endeavors.  Teach your children that the Lord will always be with them.

El temor: El temor pone los frenos en todas grandes planes. Enseñe a sus niños que el Señor siempre estará con ellos.

Feeling:  Recognize that discouragement is a feeling.  Find the source of that feeling and do something to remove it.

El sentimiento: Reconozca que esa desmotivación es un sentimiento. Encuentre que la fuente de que sintiéndose y hace algo quitarlo.

Parents / Padres

Decicate yourself to the Lord
Dedícate usted mismo al Señor
Dedicate your marriage to the Lord
Dedícate tu matrimonio al Señor
Dedicate your family to the Lord
Dedícate tu familia al Señor

The Fruitful Family

Colossians / Colosenses 3:20

Colossians / Colosenses 3:20

Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
 Hijos, obedezcan a sus padres en todo, porque esto agrada al Señor.

Twelve Rules for Raising Gang Members & Drug-Addicts

1. Begin with infancy to give the child everything he wants. In this way he will grow up to believe the world owes him a living.
2. When he picks up bad words, laugh at him. This will make him think he's cute. It will also encourage him to pick up "cuter" phrases, that will blow off the top of your head later.

3. Never give him any spiritual training. Wait till he's 21 and let him "decide" for himself.
4. Avoid use of the word "wrong" it may develop a guilt complex. This will condition him to believe later, when he is arrested for stealing a car, that society is against him, and he is being persecuted.

5. Pick up everything he leaves laying around -- books, shoes, and clothing. Do everything for him so he will be experienced in throwing all responsibility onto others.
6. Let him read any printed matter he can get his hands on. Be careful that the silverware and drinking glasses are sterilized, but let his mind feast on garbage.

7. Quarrel frequently in the presence of your children. In this way they will not be too shocked when the home is broken up later.
8. Give a child all the spending money he wants. Never let him earn his own. Why should he have things as tough as you had them?

9. Satisfy his every craving for food, drink, and comfort. See that every sensual desire is gratified. Denial may lead to harmful frustration.
10. Take his part against neighbors, teachers, and policemen. They are all prejudiced against your child.

11. When he gets into real trouble, apologize for yourself by saying, "I never could do anything with him."
12. Prepare for a life of grief. You will be sure to have it.

Freddy Garcia “Outcry in the Barrio”

Romans / Romanos 1:30

slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents;

calumniadores, enemigos de Dios, insolentes, soberbios y arrogantes; se ingenian maldades; se rebelan contra sus padres;

Helping Your Children Obey

Obedience
Pleases the Lord

Complace al Señor
Teaches our Children to obey the Lord

Enseñar que nuestros Niños para obedecer al Señor
Teaches our Children to Please the Lord

Enseña nuestros Niños para Complacer
Promises to lead to a fruitful life
Promesas de Señor para llevar a una vida fructífera

Parent with Purpose

Children, Obey your Parents
First Line of Defense
Hijos, obedezcan a sus padres
Primera linea defensiva

Hebrews / Hebreos 12:11

No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.

Ciertamente, ninguna disciplina, en el momento de recibirla, parece agradable, sino más bien penosa; sin embargo, después produce una cosecha de justicia y paz para quienes han sido entrenados por ella.

Parent with Vision

In Everything
Actively pursue training  our Children
En Todo
Entrena nuestros niños activamente

Deuteronomy / Deuteronomio 6:7

Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

Incúlcaselas continuamente a tus hijos. Háblales de ellas cuando estés en tu casa y cuando vayas por el camino, cuando te acuestes y cuando te levantes.

Parent to Please

For this pleases the Lord
porque esto agrada al Señor.

Parents Job / Papel de Los Padres
To teach our Children to please the Lord

Enseñar nuestros niños a agradecer el Señor.

Colossians / Colosenses 1:10

And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God,

para que vivan de manera digna del Señor, agradándole en todo. Esto implica dar fruto en toda buena obra, crecer en el conocimiento de Dios